I’m going to let God be the judge of who goes to heaven and hell. — Joel Osteen
If someone cuts dear hubby off in traffic he assumes it is because the individual believed they needed to, or entitled to, be in front of him on the road. He will rage on throwing out words of anger. (Thank heavens he doesn’t feel the need to retaliate, whew!)
I, on the other hand, think folks are just too busy with their own lives to see everything around them. I will toss out a reason why they couldn’t see me and, usually, will even say a quick prayer asking for their safety.
This is one area where my husband and I, after a few years of marriage (we’re talking about not judging so let’s not discuss my age), still stumble with conflict in our marriage. He tells me his woes of his day at work and finds me excusing (or wondering away) the actions of others. The discussion usually ends with him saying, “You never take my side.”
What I don’t understand is why we have to take sides. I am not trying to side with others against my husband. I adore my husband. Without turning this into a VDA (virtual display of affection), I will simply add: he is the most wonderful (selfless) husband and father I have ever met. However, he doesn’t “get” me in this area.
In general, I believe people are good at heart and nobody is out to just hurt someone else. I rationalize why someone did or said something that may offend another.
What do you think? Are most offenses intentional or accidental? Do you think I am letting my husband down by not grabbing a hangman’s noose and letting the person swing? To be on his side, do I need to jump his bandwagon when he has a bad day? If not, how do I get him to realize I am on his side?
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